Is it written in the unofficial guy handbook that coffee shops are a great place to hit on girls?
I’m not going to lie, it’s not a bad place to get a date, I’d be a hypocrite if I disagreed, but it’s getting a little old to me.
While I sit here and say it’s a bad idea, I suppose you can tell a lot about a person by the drink they order.
A double, half calf, non-fat, soy carmel macchiato extra hot, may be a bit much for a down to earth guy or girl.
But find someone who orders a drip with room, and that same person may be in luck.
Today I walked in and placed an order for myself and the Cheerleader.
While I was waiting for my drink, an older guy came over and started talking to me. I recognized him, he’s in there a lot… a regular if you will.
In fact the last time I was in I thought I caught him checking me out. I was flattered but in a way that just makes you think ‘that’s nice’ not ‘holy crap that guy is checking me out… what do I do?’
So there he was this morning standing next to me. I saw him coming and recognized him right away.
He busted out the usual casual chit chat…. how are you this morning?
Me: ‘good, good, how are you?’
Him: ‘I’m good, do you have big plans for the holiday? (as he checked out my left hand for a ring)’
Me: ‘I’m going to a friends house’
Him: ‘You don’t have family here?’
Me: ‘No I’m from the midwest’
And it went on from there…. before long my drinks were up and I jumped at the opportunity for an excuse to cut the conversation short and move on with my day.
I didn’t want to encourage him or give him any false hope.
He was an ok looking guy for his age, I just can’t seem to wrap my head around dating a guy that old.
Not to mention, I’m running out of coffee shops on the way into work and I can’t lose another one because I’m afraid of a post-date confrontation.
And I think he’s retired! Why else would he be hanging out in there in the mornings when the rest of the world is going to work?
I’m starting to feel like I’m stuck in this sort of dating purgatory. I feel young, but I know I’m not and I don’t want to date young guys. On the other hand, I’m scared to death to date someone who may be in his late 40’s to early 50’s.
I even have a hard time writing that! Wow! What is wrong with me?!
Am I having a mid-life crisis? What is my dating pool right now? I feel like it’s this small range of guys between the ages of 38 and 42, but even the 42 weirds me out a bit.
I guess maybe I’m in the age range where you can be young at heart but look older than my dad, or you can be young and act old… then there are the guys who are going through their own midlife crisis trying to relive their adolescence.
What is the perfect age when you’re approaching 40??
30’s seem to young…. 40’s seem too old… why is this age so difficult?? Maybe I’m the one being difficult… staring down this latest decade could be hurting more than helping at this point.